YOU CAN’T SEE THE STARS WITHOUT THE DARKNESS: ON CONFLICT RESOLUTION AND SELF COMPASSION, MAGIC IS THERE.

Are you a people pleaser? Do you try and make everything balanced and harmonious for everyone in your life? Conflict perhaps terrifies you and you assume the role that it’s your job to shift the energy, emotionally lighten the load and make everything peachy keen rosy again?

Well it’s not your job. And if you do feel this way, it can create a life-long pattern that leaves you feeling powerless and emotionally drained. You will manifest all sorts of obstacles that block your flow of abundance and well-being. However, once you recognize the pattern, and you can release yourself from this burden, then the beauty of life starts to take a turn in a different direction for you to embrace.

The seeming mess, chaos and darkness that you experience in life isn’t an opportunity to be frightened. It’s a calling from your soul to rise up with bravery and face your feelings. Dive in deep – this helps to create profound levels of personal transformation and self-awareness.

Ever since I was a child I would feel responsible for the way that others would feel. I grew up in a home that had a lot of love, but a lot of emotional drama. It was a crap-load of dysfunction actually, but I wouldn’t change my childhood even if I could. My parents would argue almost daily. If they weren’t arguing they seemed to be so emotionally disconnected from one another.

This seeded a very deep belief in my soul…

WHEN EMOTIONAL SHIT HITS THE FAN, I NEED TO GET IT RESOLVED AS SOON AS POSSIBLE BECAUSE IT FEELS SCARY AND I FEEL UNLOVED. I WOULDN’T ALLOW SPACE TO HEAL. INSTEAD I WOULD PLACE AN URGENCY ON RESOLUTION AS A SELF-SETTLING MECHANISM THAT MEANT THAT I SACRIFICED MY OWN NEEDS.

I don’t think I ever really understood that it’s okay to have a time-out, to go to your separate corners and incubate your feelings back to a space of love.

In relationships I would bully the situation, I would force it, push it, demand that my needs get met in that moment without any form of compassion that the other person has their own way of coping.

Now, at 52 years old, after going to seminars, working with people like Bryon Katie, sessions with light workers and the generous wisdom offered by beautiful mentors, I have slowly begun to understand that space and time (and allowing for space) is the fundamental healing property for all conflict resolution.

Me – just like everyone in this entire Universe – is an ongoing work-in-progress. I slip up from time to time and lapse back into old patterns, but I am committed to cultivating the awareness that there always has to be a better way and that LOVE fixes almost everything.

WE ALL HAVE OUR OWN SHITTY DEMONS TO DEAL WITH AND IT’S ALL PERFECTLY OKAY AND FINE TO BE A ‘HOT MESS’ FOR THE TIME REQUIRED TO STEP BACK INTO MAGNIFICENCE AGAIN.

YOU MUST GIVE YOURSELF PERMISSION TO PROCESS YOUR FEELINGS IN A SITUATION OF DISCORD BEFORE YOU PROCEED ONTO FORGIVENESS. THIS IS HEALTHY. THIS MEANS ALLOWING THE OTHER PARTY SPACE.

This means loving yourself enough to get some space to push the reset button.

Otherwise you’re sweeping everything under the rug, you’re sugar-coating a turd and you’re building a house on sand.

Get super-vulnerable with yourself. Seek your own safety from within and allow the darkness the space it needs in order to make those inner stars twinkle again. xo

If you’re interested in removing some of the blocks and reshaping your beliefs around relationships and abundance then I would highly encourage joining me in doing a Vision Board January 8 with me,insight, releasing ceremony, getting clear on your affirmation, journaling, worksheets to get all of your feelings out of your head and onto paper so that you can create the most miraculous life.

Blessings

Mary June Tracy The Guru Mama

We are apart of this world. Mother nature, the planets, the wind, the sea and all around us are apart of us and we as humans are usually feeling we are not. But then disaster hits. Fire, hurricane, tornado, floods you name she shows us we need to respect that what is around us. If we are unable to respect ourselves or our neighbours how can we respect the very earth below our feet. That is what this cry around the world is saying. The planets are showing us with retrograde. Slowing down so we can see clearer.

Step into this new cycle of life fully aligned with your Spirit. Mother Nature is calling us to be her stewards and her envoys in the world. We represent Her needs, which are our truest needs.

We don’t need more things. Especially if we are manufacturing it and adding more damage to our world. We are at a point in our world where things feel oh so hard. This is so we can dig deep within our soul to allow for our light to shine bright.

You have a choice about how you’ll create this new life story. Allow Magic in!
Embodiment, Sensuality and Manifestation. It’s about being here on earth in a body- enjoying it AND at the same time staying aligned with the path of integrity, spiritual maturity, mastery.

We are being called to know when to rise above and know when to drop down below. Too much of either keeps us stuck in shadow and light without finding the balance and wholeness we are searching for.

This is a month of navigating the heights and the depths– theecstasy and the agony- all from a centered space as though we are the center of the wheel and not the spokes in constant motion.

We are being given the opportunity to truly understand that this is all the lila (the Divine Play of life) and that we cannot integrate it all until we have experienced and embodied it all-LIGHT AND SHADOW…”

Ram Das says ‘be here now’ and this New Moon/month is all about being here now– through it all. Through the ups and downs, ins and outs, good and bad, light and shadow.

The good news is that the downs, outs, bad and shadow are definitely less present this month than in the last two- almost like the Universe giving us a little reprieve and reward for allthe hard work done in recent months.

When you are learning how to surf bigger waves the moment you master a particular level it’s time to up level and move to something more difficult. This month is like a sacred pause- in between big lessons and the next wave coming in.

This will give us an opportunity to bring our earth energy into balance that our bodies desperately need with so much energy running through us.

Blessings
Mama G

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